Before 90s to the mid-90s, these “Sharmaji ka beta” (Mr Sharma’s son) and “Kapoorji ka beta” (Mr Kapoor’s son) were favorites amongst the parents. Many of you must have got the point by now. A typical comparison with various uncles’ sons and daughters used to be the common trick which our parents used to motivate us.
|Apne Kapoor Saab Kua Kehnge?|
(What would Kapoor sir say?)
“Only 60%? Shame on you. Look at Chowdhry’s son, he has scored 90%.”
“Photography? Why? Kapoor Sahab’s son took Engineering. After 4-5 years, he would be earning in 5 digits.”
“I am so worried about our daughter. When would we find a nice boy for her? That Sheela’s daughter has got an NRI.”
“A Santro only? My brother gifted his son-in-law a Honda City. Big car, you know.”
Phew! Few of us have faced this situation and rest has seen in movies like 3 Idiots and 2 States.
But the question is why these comparisons? Why can’t you be you? Why you need to be like someone else’s beta or beti (daughter)? Are they not proud of you? Are they not happy having you? No. They are. But they just don’t want you to get failed. They want the best for you.
With time and growing literacy level, people are becoming more realistic and developing the reasonable approach towards these things. They understand that each individual has his/her own method of working, thought process, and abilities. It doesn’t mean that people could not realize this thing previously. Competition is still there. But with developing nation, scopes in different field have been increased, students’ are getting more opportunities to project their abilities, they are getting more and more encouragement to make progress. Parents are still worried about the competition their children would have to face but are confident at the same time. Instead of making them scared of the completion, they encourage them to face it with sportsman spirit. Students believe in healthy competition because of this. So we guess no more “Sharmaji ka beta” phrase exists anymore! Hopefully no.
The time has so much changed. Previously a 23-year-old girl had to get married because of “Shaadi ki umra” (Ideal age to get married) and “umra- layak” (eligible) concepts. Don’t need to elaborate, do I? But not any more such concepts work, at least in most of the societies. Parents are keen about the ideal ages, but they don’t pressurize. They believe that a daughter has all the rights to make a career of her choice, be confident, self-developed, and independent. Girls and boys have become career conscious to make the future better for them and their families. For them, “Sky is the limit!”
If you remember the story of the movie 3 Idiots, the future of a kid is decided at the moment he/she is born. If it is a baby boy, he would be an engineer and if it is a baby girl, she would a doctor. “Viru Sahastrabudhhe” may exist till the date, but most of the parents believe to make their kids free to fly. They believe in their kids’ abilities and choice of career. So no question of comparison arises here.
People have changed. Society has changed. Education has been a Hero. We needed this change. This is good for us and for the forthcoming generations. Let’s keep it up.
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*Photo Courtesy : google.com